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 xicanagrrrl:

ido tigmor by Elisha Lim

“I wasn’t really thinking about transgender issues when I met Ido. He just preferred to be called ‘he’, and that felt natural to me. I remember once my mum asked me why he had a female voice on the phone. Why not? I wondered. The question didn’t seem to relate to anything. For a moment I felt honestly confused.

When you love something, whether it’s jam and cheese sandwiches, or wearing your pyjamas as pants, if you just love it, you forget that it was ever anything other than commonplace. He didn’t make me care more about transgender issues. He made them seem ordinary to me.

Sometimes I call him ‘she’ in front of his mother. Sometimes he makes educational zines about men that used to be women. Sometimes my mother argues that a female voice on the phone can’t belong to a “he”.

But Ido sidesteps gender assignment in a way that seems effortless. He just carries on being a good friend, and talking, and laughing until he cries, and that’s all that matters. He’s jam and cheese, and I love him.”

(via oceanroses)